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Question: Socially Dominant Women Enjoy Being Submissive in Bed, Say Scientists?
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Answer #1:
Yes, me too... Although I portray myself as a dominant, nice, lovely, sweet, adorable and kind-hearted lady to the world, who enjoys being 'confident' and 'strong' and 'independent', I simply love for my lady friends to dominate me in the bedroom. I don't have any male friends to dominate me as most run away when I lift my top.Answer #2:
Basically people are often looking for a change of pace. If you work on sampling tomatoes every day for 8 hours a day you wouldn't want to go home and find tomatoes on your plate.But also we have to take into consideration the time period in which a woman has been bossing people around at work or generally in the every-day environment, and also if that is her natural instinct or she has just put up a face and is doing a good job at it.
Say if it's a case of a naturally dominant woman and depending on her character she really loves being in charge, that will not change in bed either. Same case but the woman has maybe been doing that too long and is probably tired of people always looking at her with a certain level of fear and respect she would want someone that would treat her differently for a change.
Of course you can not put a label on behavior since personalities vary so much and there is a ton of things you might not even begin to comprehend, so we cannot make a generalization. Even statistics may not be precise since people targeted for queries are just a small percentage of the lot, and even then they may have too much in common so the results always show a high percentage.
So bottom line is you can never know for certain and generalize anything. Of course statistics, logics and psychology may be on your side, but before you get to know a person you cannot use any of that info, and I mean really get to know them by reading signs not just hearing what they tell you.
Answer #3:
Women love to be dominated by men - and this is true even for socially dominant women.If you ever have spare time on your hands, pick up a woman's porn novel. Nowhere does the female character ever "dominate" a guy; it is always the strong, masculine man dominating the helpless broad. So what's my point here? These novels are all deliberately written this way because these are the fantasies that turn women on. This translates to how they want their bedroom sex.
Answer #4:
I believe the same is probably true for a lot of men, too. I think a lot of independent and dominant personalities do enjoy being the 'masochist' (to various levels) in sexual scenarios. From what I have read, the masochist often desires power as much as the sadist. To turn a person so crazy with lust that they can't help but have you is quite a powerful notion. Of course, these days this form of power has been absolutely destroyed by the media and so on, largely because I believe it is a more naturally feminine form of power. Generally and symbolically speaking, men are aggressive, women are passive. This doesn't mean men are all murderous lechers and women are all simpy doormats who want to be controlled - this is an over-simplified, ignorant view of the two powerful forces at work in our world that should ideally offer us balance but instead seem to have been misinterpreted and thrown completely out of whack. It's easy to interpret a masochistic person as wanting to be completely dominated and whipped because inside they hate themselves and know everyone else is better than them, but that is simply not so in many cases. A lot of people view women that way in general, even if they are not sexually masochistic, and this is really a very negative thing as it continues to persistently undermine many women's efforts in the public arena (at least if the women in question let it get to them).Anyway, yea. Another reason that more typically dominant people may enjoy being sexually dominated is that they enjoy a private scenario whereby they can relinquish some of their control. For someone who has to be constantly in control in order to keep their family or job together, their public nature can be quite tiresome. It's nice to give up responsibility for a change in an arena that is (presumably) intimate and private.
This whole sexual masochism/sadism thing is really a grey area I think. Of course it is very hard to truly quantify what makes a person want to be sexually dominated or not. There are many forms of sexual domination, some more harmful than others. And certainly, some people are masochistic in a way that is potentially very harmful to their sense of self and is a reaction to a negative childhood and so on and so forth. Then the whole male/female debate is a touchy area because, once again, the positive natures of the masculine and feminine forces have been thrown quite askew in the unconscious minds of people due to exposure to a rather unbalanced society and the media within it. It's hard to make statements regarding 'what women want' and 'what men want' when people are so different and have so many different motives, especially when the true archetypal nature of the feminine and the masculine are, I think, so misunderstood.
Answer #5:
I'm not socially dominant, so this does not apply to me. Haha. But I think this makes sense. Socially powerful or popular women tend to have traditionally feminine personality traits, as opposed to other women. I'm not very submissive, but I'm also an introvert and very quiet. I am not socially dominant by any means.** Powered by Yahoo Answers